School Vacation Days are Anything But Typical {MobileQuest Camp vs. A Day at Home}

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Thank you to our partner MobileQuest for allowing us to bring you this contrast between a "typical day" of school vacation at home, vs a "typical day" at MobileQuest. We think it's pretty obvious which one sounds better.

MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do

A day at MobileQuest STEAM camp begins with the camper being greeted by the staff of teachers and STEAM professionals. Campers join their group for a daily warm-up challenge. Today, they will be tasked with constructing a tower using spaghetti, masking tape, and marshmallows. They will have 15 minutes to work together to build the tallest tower.   


A day at my house over school vacation begins with the children being greeted by me beseeching them (for the millionth time) to PLEASE NOT CLIMB ON THE BANISTER!!! Nevermind that; today I feel prepared. I spent 4 hours last night on Pinterest planning a day filled with enrichment activities. Within five minutes my carefully crafted Pinterest activities have been rejected and my children have taken it upon themselves to go through our entire pantry, spilling dry spaghetti all over the floor and eating an entire bag of marshmallows. 


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do

Once the warm-up is complete, each group will head off to their first rotation of the day. The Little Einstein group, composed of 1st and 2nd graders, will start with our coding robots Dash and Dot. They will review the lesson from yesterday before diving into today’s challenge. Groups of 3 will be given a Dash robot and take turns being the programmer, robot wrangler, and data collector.


Once the clean up is complete, I relent and turn the TV on for the first time today. My Little Einsteins spend the next two hours watching “Little Einsteins.”


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do After their coding session is over, these future engineers will take a break for a quick snack and drink provided by the MobileQuest staff.


After four “this is the last episode I’m letting you watch” warnings, my future couch potatoes begin to beg for snacks. How come I need to feed these children so often?


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do

Next up, after snack time is over, it’s time to get some energy out with a physical education catapult challenge. Participants must perform various exercises to collect items including hula hoops, jump ropes, cones, lacrosse sticks and more. Then they will use their STEAM skills to build a catapult that will launch the rubber chicken across the “road.”


It is becoming clear that these children need to get some energy out. As I locate everyone’s socks, shoes, and coats, they are miraculously quiet. I peek into the room to see what has kept them so nicely occupied. Oh look — they are using their STEAM skills to build a catapult that will launch golf balls towards the television. WHERE DID THEY EVEN FIND GOLF BALLS?


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do Once the chicken has successfully crossed the road, it’s time for lunch and a 30 minute period of free play. Participants will play in the schoolyard with several activity options including basketball, jump rope, hula hooping, hopscotch and more.


Once I finally clean up the disaster they made in the playroom, I convince the kids to go outside. It lasts approximately 45 seconds before they trudge inside dragging mud throughout the house. I feel myself filling with deep regret at having washed the floor. 


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do

After their 30 minute lunch period, participants will begin their third rotation of the day. Now it’s time to put the A in STEAM with some Pendulum Art. This interdisciplinary activity will not only have participants learning about the forces of motion and gravity by constructing a pendulum, they will then use that pendulum to create an amazing piece of art.


Lunch lasted an hour and a half. I tried to channel June Cleaver and put together a healthy, balanced meal. Obviously, nobody ate that, so it’s mac and cheese again then. Despite the failure of lunch, I am not defeated. I am breaking out the art supplies!  


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do

The future Picassos are now finished with their masterpieces and will move on to the final rotation of the day. It’s time to channel their inner Gil Grissom. In this forensic unit,  MobileQuest’s own Penelope Periodic needs help proving her dog Molecule is not the culprit digging up her neighbor’s roses.


Art was a bust. The children are digging up the neighbor’s roses. 


MobileQuest Providence April Vacation Camp Things to Do Lastly, once the mystery of the flower thief is solved, all of our MobileQuest STEAM stars come back together to fill in their Lab notebooks with thoughts and notes about all of the adventures of the day…but the best part is that today is only Tuesday and they still have 3 more days of adventures!


Is it seriously only Tuesday? There’s not a chance I’m going to survive three more days of this. 


As a part-time working mother, the decision of sending the kids to camp is often a numbers game. I calculate the cost of babysitting versus camp. I calculate the financial difference of taking the day off as opposed to paying for camp. What I often forget in my calculations is the value of both their fun and my sanity. As much as I love to envision school vacations full of outings, projects, and idyllic family togetherness, the reality is often squabbling kids, a hodgepodge of babysitting, and stress. As April vacation approaches this year, I’m now rethinking our plans: I think MobileQuest might be the right answer for the whole family. 

MobileQuest’s mission is to deliver STEAM content in a fun and engaging way. Participants will be transported into the middle of a challenge where they will have to use their quick wit and skills to succeed. Interested in sending your scientist to MobileQuest April Vacation Camp? Visit www.mobilequestadventures.com for more details and to register! A week long program not your thing? We do birthday parties, after-school programs, STEAM nights, Scout meetings and much more!

 

The Top Five Local Places That I’m Dying To Check Out

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top five local places Rhode Island Connecticut Providence Moms BlogAh, self-care. So important, yet so hard for us moms to prioritize. When we get some free time, we unload the dishwasher for the umpteenth time that week, try to chip away at our mountain of laundry, or just pass out on the couch as our iPhone falls from our hand. With that being said, there are so many cool places for shopping, dining, or general merriment that I’ve noticed recently, and they’re all just begging for a trip. Since I haven’t even seen a movie in a theater in six months, it’ll probably be a while before I get to any of these places, but hey, a mom can dream, right?

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This cute little ‘village’ in North Providence has shopping and dining all wrapped up in one. The restaurant is located in an old Victorian house and they have different dining areas throughout the home including a rooftop bar in the summer! The adjacent shopping area offers household items and gifts. I’m not sure who named these places but just hearing what they’re called makes me think they must be a cute and cozy place to spend time with some friends. Plus I’m a sucker for vintage houses and breakfast food, so I don’t see how I could go wrong.

Old Mistick Village

Continuing on the theme of shopping is Olde Mistick Village. Located just over the border in Mystic, Connecticut, (‘honorary Rhode Island’), this is a group of 40+ shops and restaurants set up to look like an old New England village. They aren’t chain stores; they’re cute little local places that sell items of all different themes – Christmas, pets, and the beach. There’s a coffee shop, homemade ice cream parlor, and – wait for it – an Alice in Wonderland themed tea room. I know this place isn’t new, but it’s caught my eye on my way to my usual Mystic destination, the aquarium. Now I’m just itching to meander through the cobblestone streets and support some local businesses.

Point Street Dueling Pianos

This Providence hot spot has been on my list of places to check out for YEARS I tell you! A dueling piano bar sounds like such a fun and different way to have girls’ night out. It seems like dancing, comedy, and special requests are all part of the fun in addition to live music. Who wants to visit a regular old bar when you could go to a place with all of that going on? Alas, I’m usually in bed before this place opens for the night, but maybe someday I’ll have an occasion for a wild night on the town!

Alex and Ani Center Bumper Cars

The bumper cars were all over the social media world when they first arrived in downtown PVD, and for good reason. These things look awesome! They are basically big inner tubes that you steer around the rink, bashing into other cars for fun. I’m pretty much the most uncoordinated person you’ll ever meet, so skating on ice is a definite no for me, but bumper cars on ice? Minimal motor skills required! Not too many things inspire me to go outside in the winter, but this might  be just the ticket.

Sugar Factory

Have a sweet tooth? Then you might consider venturing just over the Connecticut border to Foxwoods Resort Casino in Ledyard to check this place out. They have everything you could want here. My usual treat of choice is chocolate, but hey, I don’t discriminate. Their massive cocktails look like something the Oompa Loompas would drink after a hard day at the factory. The desserts range from the typical (chocolate cake, turtle cheesecake) to the zany (the bacon cheeseburger milkshake has an actual bacon cheeseburger on the top) to the outrageous (thousand dollar chocolate gold fondue that has to be ordered 24 hours in advance). Hot chocolate, sweet pizzas, homemade ice cream sandwiches, fancy coffees – it’s all there. They have real food too, but really, who wants to fill up on that when there are all these desserts to enjoy? Everything on the menu is completely decadent, which we all know is something that motherhood, although lovely, is NOT.

My goal for 2018 is to try at least a couple of these places out. Where have you been recently that I should add to my list? Food, shopping, pampering, fun… What do you think the best local places for some ‘me time’ are?

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3 Tips for Getting Enough Rest Without Feeling Guilty

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get rest without guilty Providence Moms BlogAs a pregnant entrepreneur preparing for maternity leave, my to-do list has grown exponentially since becoming pregnant. The irony of it is that I should really be giving myself more breaks and time to rest now to help the baby grow and to prepare for the baby’s arrival.

Every wellness coach, doctor, and therapist will tell you that you need to sleep. I’ve learned that apparently I need to sleep 10 hours a day – which is outrageous. How am I supposed to accomplish all of my work on only 14 waking hours?

I was working on a podcast episode for my company the other day and I was just slogging through it – trying to power through but failing miserably. I had barely written a paragraph and it finally occurred to me that I needed to follow my own advice and give my brain a break. I’d been working for too long. My brain was telling me it was time for a rest.

So I napped for 30 minutes and 45 minutes after I woke up, the podcast episode was written. It was one of the clearest actual experiences I’ve had that proved how much more efficient and effective our brains are when we get to rest.

So without getting 10 hours of sleep a night or taking 30-minute naps in the middle of the day, how can you get this rest for your brain and be that productive person? Here are 3 quick tips:

  1. Focus on one task at a time for a maximum of 1.5 hours (work up, starting from 20 minutes). Multitasking really takes a toll on your brain, according to neuropsychologists. So keep it healthy and productive by only doing one thing at a time. Keep your phone away from you and turn off email alerts to reduce some of those natural distractions.
  2. Take 5-minute “brain breaks” throughout the day (particularly after doing those long stints of focused work). Brain breaks are opportunities for your brain to truly rest. Brain breaks include: meditating, walking, yoga, stretching, and simply noticing all the wonderful things happening around you. Brain breaks do not include reading, puzzles, or checking social media because you are still working your brain for those activities.
  3. Remind yourself that “being busy” sounds cool in our society of overly stressed out New Englanders, but it’s actually counter-productive. Often when we are “so busy” we actually get less done because we can’t focus and our brains are exhausted. Sometimes we are “so busy” because we are putting in “face time” – we are there, we are saying we’re working, but we’re actually not really doing much if we are honest with ourselves. And even if we are trying our hardest, “being busy” means “powering through”, which means taking longer than we need to on tasks because we won’t give ourselves a break.

 

I’m constantly talking with parents about how to help their kids thrive. Part of thriving is figuring out how to be productive and engage in self-care (like taking care of our brains’ health!). The number one way kids learn is by watching their parents and mimicking that behavior. So, if you want your kids to thrive as adults, the best way is to show them how you thrive and take care of yourself!

It’s a constant battle that I’m struggling with as well, but be good to yourself!


About Fireborn Institute

Fireborn Institute is a non-profit that provides parents with practical and easy-to-remember strategies to help their children in school. Through our lectures, podcasts & handouts, we coach parents on topics such as helping with homework or conquering a messy backpack. Our ultimate goal is to help parents help their kids thrive at school.

About Katherine Firestone

Katherine had a hard time in school because she suffered from undiagnosed ADHD until her junior year of high school. What made her successful during this time was the support system she had around her. After college, she worked as a teacher, and saw that parents wanted to help their kids at home, but didn’t know what to do. She started the Fireborn Institute to give parents ideas on how to help because success at school is enhanced at home. 

She is also the host of The Happy Student, a podcast for parents on promoting happy academic and social lives.  The show provides practical strategies on a variety of topics based on Fireborn’s 4 pillars. 

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Wanted: Mom Tribe

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mom tribe Providence Moms BlogRemember that feeling in middle school, when you were new to a class and you stood to the side and watched a group of girls who had been friends forever?  Should you say hi? Should you just stay quiet and wait for them to come to you? Do they even want more friends in their group? These are the flashbacks I have sitting in the kitchen of my husband’s coworker’s house. See, I’m the new mom here. They’ve all been friends for years. We moved here last year. And while this family has graciously invited us to many events, for some reason I still stand to the side and wait for someone to speak to me.

It’s strange when I think about it. I am encouraging my daughter to say hello to the other kids, ask them their names, and then just go play – so why can’t I, in essence, do the same? I’ve never considered myself an outgoing person. I have met most of my best friends in settings like work or school, where friendships develop over shared interests (or dislikes if we’re being honest!) So I struggle with this whole “making friends” thing.  As I sit and watch the other moms interact, I tell myself they just don’t need another member of their tribe. I talk myself out of even trying to be in their ‘mom friends’ group.  

I wait for that one person. The one mom who will say, “hey, do you want to come sit with us?” like it’s the cafeteria in 7th grade.  I’ve learned to not only appreciate that type of person but applaud them. I give someone so much credit for reaching out and asking someone to be a part of something. I ask myself sometimes, ‘how can I teach my daughter to be that type of person?’ and for that matter, how can I myself become that type of person?

I have to step outside my comfort zone. Tell myself I am interesting and fun and deserve a chance to make great friends. There is a lot to be said for an amazing support system that a group of mom friends can make. Camaraderie, shoulders to cry on, a listening ear, and someone to drop by with that bottle of wine you so desperately need.

So while being here makes me feel like an awkward middle schooler, there is a difference between now and then. Finding and making friends isn’t about doing things or changing yourself so that you make friends. It’s about knowing who you are and finding and keeping friends who love you for that. Does this mean I shouldn’t try to put myself out there? Not at all. I should push myself to make conversation and get involved because I just don’t know when I’ll meet an amazing group that I just click with. But it also means that I shouldn’t force it. When I find the type of group where I fit, my tribe, I will know it. So find your tribe, love them hard, but also, be kind and offer that new mom a seat and a glass of wine.

WANTED: A Baby-Sitter (So I Can Get A Seat At The Table)

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Dear community organization, delagate task force, coalition, board committee, legislative discussion,  and/or panel and planning chairperson,

I am here! I have implementable ideas to make your business, our laws, and my community better! If you could just provide an after school pick up, paid time off so I can afford daycare, meal prep service since I will not be home to prepare our meal on time due to our meeting, and on site daycare, I am your right hand (wo)man!
 
When important issues arise in the area of maternal health, community involvement, child welfare, health insurance policy, food security and quality, wages, senior care, public transit and transportation, or even television programming, I am your target audience and can provide valuable feedback! Who better to help improve maternal health than a mother herself?
 
I am available to meet at 8:15 pm in the bathroom while I am cleaning up the toys. Oh wait — that doesn’t work for you? Why not? I not only live and foster my family in this community, but I kind of created it! A conference call is best, anytime between 9pm and 1am depending on when my youngest falls asleep, but we will have to whisper. Child welfare is my primary job and primal instinct! I need health insurance to keep my family well. I buy and prepare FOODS! I can speak to food quality measures with you at 11:30 pm when I am sitting at the edge of my bed looking at tomorrow’s neverending To-Do List before attempting to sleep.
 
Wages, senior care, and transportation may not be the top priorities in your life, Chairperson, however, when you take time out of work to drive a family member to an appointment you want roads in top condition so you get back to work ASAP as to not lose those wages! I have plenty to consult on you with. I’d like to schedule a debriefing at 6:15 am right before I dart for my 5 minute allotment of shower time. No, I cannot meet you at noon on a Monday, I work through lunch so I can have breaks to pump breastmilk. No, I cannot meet you Tuesday at 5pm -school pick-up takes 1 hour to complete, we get home at 6pm;(and no earlier). No, I can not meet you on Thursday at 7pm;– that is bath time (please read toy clean up time above). I can meet on Saturday, at 11ish am, in a kid friendly place, where food is served. We will be in our pajamas. Did I say 11ish? I will most likely be there by noon.
 

I am a mother. Every charity, cause, foundation, or movement can inevitably be traced back to my life. CEOs, politicians, and doctors are all making decisions to help or hinder me, and I have no seat at the table. I have plenty to contribute, and I have a lot to say. I can help. I WANT to help. On second thought, maybe I need more than one seat at the table, because if you can’t get me a baby-sitter, I’ll have to bring my children along. Otherwise, YOU miss out.

 

An Interview with Festival Ballet’s Brenna DiFrancesco

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Enjoy this guest post from our friends at Festival Ballet!

Everything is beautiful at the ballet. Well, except for a terrible tantrum from an overtired two-year-old during Act II. We know that exposing our little ones to live performance art like ballet expands creativity, encourages freedom of expression, and offers a sneaky dose of historical awareness, but a full-length classical ballet still feels intimidating when Tommy can barely make it through story time without a bathroom visit and a fidget break. So how do we bring our kids to the ballet? Good news- your local ballet company has a solution!

Festival Ballet Providence created a series of shows just for the youngest among us. You may have heard of the “Chatterbox Theater”, a collection of productions made with children in mind, featuring original dancing to beloved stories with captivating sets and costumes. These shows are short in length but high in energy, engaging little ones with impressive dancing from Rhode Island’s premiere ballet company, and always an extra helping of humor. At the Chatterbox Theater, kids are free to laugh, shout, clap, or get up and dance!

This month, Festival Ballet presents the return of “The Little Prince”, back by popular demand after its debut last season. This whimsical show tells the story of an interplanetary journey and the importance of friendship. We sat down with the star of the show, Seekonk native Brenna DiFrancesco, to hear a bit about what makes this production so special.

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“The Little Prince” is one of the top-selling children’s books of all time. Why do you think this classic story of friendship and discovery translates so well into a ballet? 

I found the story of “The Little Prince” to be imaginative yet very complex. The ballet takes both of these elements and creates something more simplistic and animated, keeping the children engaged while also reminding them of some great life lessons. 

A moral to the story- always key! What makes “The Little Prince” different from other shows that FBP offers? 

Most definitely the artwork that is being projected during the show. Dancer Jacob Hoover’s mother, Michelle Gutlove, is a renowned artist. The show’s artistic team recorded her drawing these beautiful illustrations which are projected for the audience during certain parts of the ballet, allowing you to watch the work that was done come to life. At the same time, an adapted version of the story is being narrated by local story-teller Valerie Tutson, engaging yet another sense in a really different and interesting way.

What is your favorite part of performing for a young audience?

I think children may just be my favorite audience to perform for. Their enthusiasm and excitement bring an energy to the performance that really can’t be replicated. I have been babysitting for families in and around Providence for many years and I think my time spent with children has really helped me connect well with kids on and off stage. It’s so much fun!

How does FBP cater its Chatterbox Theater performances specifically to children?

The Chatterbox performances are great for children of all ages because unlike many ballets, it is rarely longer than 45 minutes and being in such a personal space- The Black ox Theater seats under 100 audience members- keep the kids involved without losing their focus. Also, last but certainly not least, the children are welcomed on stage at the end of each show to meet the characters and enjoy cookies from Seven Stars Bakery! 

Can’t forget the cookies and milk from our wonderful sponsors- everyone’s favorite Seven Stars Bakery! Any tips for bringing first-time little ballet-goers to the performance?

I would suggest reading the story of “The Little Prince” with your little ones before seeing the show so that they are able to get the full experience. With that being said, please remind your kids to laugh out loud, clap as loud as loud as they wish, and most importantly have fun! We love to hear their enthusiasm. 🙂 

Thank you so much, Brenna!

Fits and Starts: Learning To Love The Life We Have

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fits starts acceptance Providence Moms BlogA few sentences of a blog post written.

A half folded pile of laundry (likely unfolded by helpful little hands by now).

A dish and two spoons washed.

The floor swept, but then someone cried and the pile was forgotten. Tiny toddler toes have since trampled it though, so you’d never know.

A tantrum quelled.

Baby food made but thrown away after just a few bites were consumed. Why won’t this baby eat???

The art supplies made it out of the closet, but everyone was distracted before any creativity occurred.

Several pages of a book were read before the baby began to cry.

Throw the white flag of surrender and attempt a nap. Maybe if I get a little sleep I’ll find my patience. Then the baby wakes up and sleep is added to the list of today’s failures.

Another tantrum quelled.

A fight broken up.

The baby is put to the breast every time she makes a sound, and still, her weight gain slogs along at a snail’s pace. Fit in another weight check into the schedule. Find a babysitter or drag the circus along. Progress remains slow. 

Manage a trip to the store. Forget half the list.

Another tantrum quelled. 

A life lived in fits and starts. Always beginning. Never finishing. Rarely accomplishing anything visible.

Then a smile.

The baby’s face lights up with indescribable delight at the sight of you.

A conversation overheard: “You my brother, I help you always,” three-year-old syntax rendering the sentiment even more endearing.

A sleepy head rests on your chest, you are his sanctuary.

Quick glances for reassurance, and with your tiny nod and smile, confidence is restored.

Artwork eventually makes it up on walls.

A chubby hand sneaks its way into a shirt, seeking out comfort remembered from his earliest days.

Cooing turns into babbling. Fighting makes room for occasional cooperation.

Tantrums are still quelled. 

But the oldest suddenly knows his letters. He can sound out words. Progress feels fast.

Spiky peach fuzz turns into silky, slippery hair, which just as quickly thickens and darkens. Limbs stretch out and baby rolls melt away. Where is time going? We wonder, predictably.

A life lived in fits and starts. But then again, I suppose the finish line was never actually the goal anyway. 

I’ll take it. 

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Let’s Talk About Sex! (Really? Right Here In The Car, Right Now?!?)

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One thing I can guarantee about parenting is that The Good Timing Fairy is rarely going to grace you with her presence. On the contrary, The Bad Timing Fairy will often swoop in, bringing vomiting children the night before your important professional presentation, an abrupt end to Paw Patrol obsessiveness the week before the Pinterest-perfect themed birthday party you have planned, and questions about things like death and sex and existentialism when you are in the car 5 minutes away from soccer practice.

If you have given any thought to how and when you might have “The Talk” with your child, you may imagine yourself intentionally sitting down with your son or daughter at the appropriate age (which you will somehow be able to magically determine) andhaving a long heart-to-heart chat. You will have all of the answers, and your child will eagerly and gratefully accept the wisdom you have to share. Please, do yourself a favor and free yourself of that idealized after school special fantasy. It probably won’t go down like that, but that’s OK. You won’t ruin them for life if the first foray into conversations about sex doesn’t go exactly as planned.

So how can you prepare now for the inevitable blindsiding that is in your future?

  1. Lay the groundwork by getting comfortable with using the correct names for anatomical parts. Vulva, vagina, clitoris, nipples, anus, penis, scrotum. The research is clear that this practice encourages positive body image, openness, and body confidence. In addition, using the correct names helps eliminate confusion when children are talking about their bodies with doctors or in the case of injury or abuse. Create an environment where it is acceptable for your child to ask questions about their body or their observations about themselves.
  2. Recognize and address any discomfort you have with talking about sex and reproduction. Did looking at the above list of words create worry in you? Do you feel confident in using those words without embarrassment? Have a conversation with your parenting partner if applicable to get these areas of discomfort out into the open. One place to start is talking about how you both first learned about sex and reproduction, and what parts of that process you feel worked well for you and what you might want to do differently for your own child.
  3. Think about what kind of message about sex and sexuality you want to convey to your child. If your goal is to convey that intercourse and reproduction are a healthy part of human existence, your tone and language choices should match. When you discuss things like menstruation with your son or daughter, think about how to address any issues of shame or secrecy that can accompany it.
  4. Build your library now. It’s Not the Stork is a good place to start for language and explanations appropriate for children age 4ish and up. By the same group, It’s So Amazing is a great resource for children aged 7 and up. For slightly older children who may want to do some reading on their own, It’s Perfectly Normal is suitable for ages 10 and up. Reading through these books yourself ahead of time will help you with centering your thoughts on developmentally appropriate ways to explain concepts and will also help orient you to some of the areas that may be part of your discussions at different ages.
  5. Know that the conversations won’t all happen at once. The first question your child asks might be more concrete, like “why doesn’t my baby sister have a penis too?” or it could be a little bigger, like “How did that baby get in your belly?” or “What the heck are ‘lovers’ and what do they do, anyway?” (Thanks, popular music!) For the more simple questions, answer what is asked and wait for your child to ask their follow up questions, if any. They will let you know how much they are ready for, and when. Follow their lead. It’s OK if you don’t feel like you have adequate time to answer or if you aren’t 100% sure what you want to say. Respond by acknowledging their question and tell them that you want to take a little time to make sure you have the best information to give them, then make a plan to follow up with a conversation within a day or so. 

That all seems pretty manageable, right? Set a good foundation with these five steps now and you will be ready when that “Mom? I have a question…” comes hurtling at you out of nowhere from the backseat. Good luck, we are always here with a virtual hug (or glass of wine) if needed.

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The Evolution of Zoo School: Preschool Adventures at RWPZ

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Zoo School Preschool Adventures Providence Moms BlogRight before my daughter’s third birthday, I found out about a program at Roger Williams Park Zoo.  I now realize it is called Preschool Adventures, but for the last two year (and for probably forever) I’ve lovingly referred to it as “Zoo School.” We’ve attended most of the sessions offered each year and I’m always excited for the next class. Here’s how it works: each month, an animal is highlighted. The class consists of four main sections: circle time talking about the animal, craft time where we make a craft associated with the animal, animal encounter where a small animal (usually not the animal of the month) is brought into the classroom for an up-close interaction, and finally walking to the exhibit in the zoo of the animal. We’ve learned about snow leopards, giraffes, elephants, red pandas, and so many others (and now you know why they bring in a small cuddly animal and not the animal of the month). 

As we approach our final class I’ve taken the time to reflect on the last 3 years of classes.  Here are the lessons I’ve learned.

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Year 1 – Our kids are 3 years old

Expectation: Our adorable tiny children will meet new kids, learn about cute animals, and of course will sit nicely and listen.
Outcome: Our children turned three; our expectations were lofty. Every class the phrases “stop that,” “sit still” “if I have to say this again WE ARE LEAVING” could be heard more than I care to admit.

Year 2 – Our kids are 4 years old

Expectation/Prayers: Please let us make it through ONE class without threatening to leave!
Outcome: Woo hoo — they are sitting on the rug!!! (Well, they sat for a little bit, which let’s face it, is a win!)

Year 3 – Our kids are 5 years old

Expectation: Our kids are going to be the oldest and therefore they should show the little kids how to be good….right?
Outcome: They sit, they listen, they answer EVERY question (even the ones not asked) and they provide commentary on everything.  Sadly, they avoid the small children and have little to no interest in mentoring them.

Here’s the thing, the biggest problem with these classes isn’t that our children don’t sit still and give undivided attention because realistically they are three to five years old. Children at that age don’t give anything undivided attention. The issue was our expectations. We expected them to act and learn as an older child might. Through it all, the teacher Miss Makenzie (a SAINT) never yelled or pulled them aside because she had known they wouldn’t sit still or listen to every fun fact or lesson she had planned. Her patience and calm nature had a way of capturing the attention that they had the capability to devote to her.

 

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By adjusting expectations we can change the feel of our experiences. They are only little once and it’s a good thing because I’m not sure I could relive the threenager year!

Find the class listing here!

Golf Tees, Super Soakers, and Potato Chips: An Awakening and Ode to Black History

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black history Providence Moms Blog inventors trailblazers pioneersBlack History Month takes on a whole new meaning for me now. So do potato chips, the Super Soaker, and golf tees.

Last year, I had the honor and privilege of working on a custom art piece for a friend and the impact of it continues to rock my world. Her request was to create a typographical piece that included as many African American inventors and pioneers as I could find in the fields of Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (STEM). So, after I did a ton of research, voilà, I had a list of over 40 incredible trailblazers and inventors with world-altering inventions to craft into a work of art.

Then I realized, out of this stunning list, I had only heard of three people.

Three.

That has stuck with me. I was floored by what I didn’t know. 

I consider myself fairly well educated and a life-long learner. I actively encourage education and learning in a variety of forms for my two young children. So why didn’t I know these names?

Because I had already checked “learning Black History” off my educational to-do list. I knew about Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks, George Washington Carver, even Dorothy Height and the impact of Tuskegee University. I assumed I was a more enlightened person for knowing about their work. We all are, aren’t we?

That’s what we think

But prior to this custom art request, I allowed myself to stop learning about “Black History.” I was living with the assumption that if the information was important enough, it would have shown up in some school curriculum. Well, now I know that that’s not the case.

Even with the great people and accomplishments I learned about in public school, it was by no means complete. George Washington Carver’s legacy is insultingly reduced to peanut products. Mr. Carver’s work at Tuskegee University with sweet potatoes, soybeans, pecans, and peanuts, among many other crops, focused on sharecrop diversity and soil regeneration, would directly impact the national economy. He was an agricultural advisor to President Theodore Roosevelt and Mahatma Gandhi! That’s a lesson in environmental sustainability at a global level, not a legume. 

As a society, we think this reduction of accomplishments is enough. We roll our eyes when we see Black History Month because the same faces and bios are highlighted again and again and again. The month itself has become a reduction of an entire group of people who are integral to our nation’s history and have been and continue to be repeatedly cast aside.

So we should know that in 1899, George F. Grant, a Harvard graduate and the first African American Harvard faculty member invented and patented the wooden golf tee. This revolutionized a game that was ironically dominated by white men and only recently allowed a diversity of players to join its ranks.

We should know that the same man who created the Super Soaker Water Gun, Lonnie Johnson, also created a heating system that can revolutionize energy consumption for the planet, has over 90 patents in his name and is STILL inventing to help solve the world’s issues before they become crises.

We should know that George Crum, head chef at the Moon’s Lake House in Saratoga Springs, NY, is attributed with creating the most consumed snack product, the potato chip, to sarcastically appease a complaining customer in 1853. This sparked an international snack craze that has never stopped.

The list goes on and on.

What is also incredible to consider are the trailblazers. In the confines of the research I did for this piece of art, the first African Americans, both men and women, to receive Ph.D’s in various STEM fields are mostly within the 20th century, some as recently as the 1970s. That’s really not that long ago. If you’re in your thirties, these pioneers could be contemporaries of your parents.

But we think, well, that’s great! That’s progress! The door of opportunity is open for a few to lead the way! And a great many of us let it go at that thinking that collectively as a society, we are doing OK. 

So if we believe America is a country that welcomes and embraces the diversity of cultures, why is there a Black Lives Matter movement? Why are some states covertly removing Confederate monuments at night and others only proposing they be removed, or worse, relocated? As this all happens around us, we are redefining American culture and society through our action and inaction. By sitting solely on our belief that we think we are doing OK, we are actively regressing from everything these 40+ trailblazers and inventors worked for: a better, more accepting world.

So what do we do? At the very least, we remember these “new” pioneering names and accomplishments. Then we learn more about them and actively incorporate them into our world. Recognize and acknowledge these names as people who worked through adversity to do what most never will: transform a dream into a world-changing reality. Then we should not forget them. We can’t settle for just knowing who they are. We need to uphold the world they envisioned. We need to combat the culture that tried to bury these names in the shifting dunes of history. This is not a month-long endeavor. This must become a daily tribute.

I hope the next time you eat a potato chip, use a water gun, or swing a (mini-) golf club, you’ll remember the effort behind those creations and not take their inventors, existence, and impact for granted. We should be celebrating our history’s successes and brilliant contributors of all backgrounds to showcase what more we can accomplish as a united, collaborative and accepting nation, not to see what bad behavior we can get away with under the guise of being progressive.

For more on this topic, check out Malcolm Gladwell’s stunningly crafted rant about moral licensing.



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